S p o r o t i c a

I often have wondered at what cost comes security in the life of the average modern adult in the average modern relationship?

After much pondering and soul-searching, I have decided that the concept of ‘love’ as it applies to reasonable English-speaking people is in dire need of being redefined.  We spend too much of our short lives desperately searching for something that is apparently outmoded enough of an oblique concept to drive us all to divorce when we see that what we now have was not what we thought it was going to be when we started out on the journey.

And with that, I say this; if you care deeply for someone, does loving them and marrying them automatically mean that they are going to be expected to fulfill every single one of your dreams, wishes, future desires and idle wants, even when neither they nor you realize what it is you are wanting from yourself, let alone a marriage?

Have you ever found yourself on a Saturday evening standing in a dimly lit room surrounded by people whose real first names you might not know while your barely-clad significant other is strapped to a piece of specially-designed, evil-intentioned furniture breathlessly awaiting the first kiss of whichever implement you selected from your leather bag full of dire toys?

I have. And it is a ritual I partake in as often as I can, as it is one time I can fully exist in the moment. (more…)